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But What About Our Husbands?

Author: Kristi Marsh

In the unfolding world of environmental health, my place is in front of women. Learning how to bring safer, kinder products into my home was the springboard to helping other women who are eager to know what I've learned. Keynotes, lectures, conferences... the bigger the stage the better! I thrive on the high energy and mind-snapping feminine electricity that fills a room when I speak.

Most rewarding to me is to be part of bubbling, infectious, spirited discussions. I've found, at almost every event, some determined, fearless soul will stand up and ask a question others are wrestling with silently: "HOW do I get my husband on board? He just doesn't understand," or "My husband thinks it's too expensive," or "He just doesn't care," or "He won't change his ways."

I look across the room and witness the sisterhood of hearts go out to her, and then their eyes move to me for the magical marital solution. I tilt my head, sympathetically, smile with an "Oh Honey" look and half-jokingly respond; "Someone else is going to have to write that book."

Admittedly, my book, Little Changes, was written in a woman's voice, about a woman's journey, revealing my typically female emotions. Yet, since writing it, I've been around many wise women, had deep conversations and have collected some husband-tested tools I recommend to encourage a merging of Venus and Mars.

Here are a collection of ideas that just might add that eco-spark to your partnership as you create a healthier and safer home for the whole family.

My hubby applauds my quest for genuine food. Maybe it's because my cooking has dramatically improved by using fresh foods and simpler flavors. He has weaned our lawn of its drug addiction, and befriended our backyard chickens. But if you look inside our bathroom cupboards, there is a hairspray, and a few other products, I would be embarrassed for you to see on my quest for perfectionism. In spite of them, my impact has been remarkable on my own body, mind and spirit and on my children. Just like you.

Here are recommended discussion starter titles:

Exposed by Mark Schapiro
The Omnivore's Dilemma by Michael Pollan
The New American Diet by Stephen Perrine
Food Matters by Mark Bittman

If you are looking for money saving ideas, try this kind DIY weed killer recipe.

So, what have you witnessed in your relationships? What has been a topic, tool, or to-do that became the trigger for your spouse? Or is there just one thing that you would LOVE to see him change out?

Enjoy the journey,


About Kristi Marsh
Kristi Marsh is the founder and force behind Choose Wiser and a passionate speaker. Born and raised as a mainstream Pacific Coast soul, she now advocates for women's eco-health while raising her children in New England. Kristi revels in taking gloomy-n-doomy overwhelming topics and flipping them into bite size doable changes for Everyday-Me's, creating healthier homes and bodies one little change at a time.


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LM McWilliams
It's incredible to me, though I've grown up in America, how in the world we ever let ourselves be convinced that is was OK to pollute our air, water, soil... and our bodies, to the point that our children are born polluted. All of them. The next time we are tempted to pick up a can of hairspray, or slather chemicals on our faces, or buy synthetic fabrics, or chemically treated fabrics (nearly all are in some way), or coat the interior of our homes in paints that release toxins, or... we should ask ourselves if it is really important enough to risk our health. Or our children's health. It is worth seeking out the truly non-toxic versions of products we cannot live without. And giving up those we can. Health is our natural state of being. You are right, Kristi - it becomes overwhelming. The principles are important, but 'bite-sized' steps make it easier to take action. And EVERY STEP MATTERS! Lists of 10 things everyone can consider changing for the better in their lives - without upsetting the applecart of their daily routine - are a great tool! Principles matter, too, especially since the 'experts' keep changing their recommendations or warnings, depending on their perspective, who is paying them, and increasing knowledge about the dangers of many chemicals. My guideline is: if our ancestors did not evolve in contact with a particular substance, my body is not going to have the genetic code on how to deal with it - and it is NOT likely to be healthy! On the other hand, if my ancestors thrived while exposed to certian things (appropriate amounts of sunshine, foods, etc) then those things probably ARE good for my body!
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It took a nasty emergence of a chemical allergy for us to go from eco-aware to making the deep plunge. I admit it - I can't currently afford local chicken ($6.99/lb?!), but I can still choose companies that offer better living environment and eat a veggie heavy diet to cut down on over-consumption. I think getting the guy on board often is just making what changes you CAN commit to instead of focusing on the changes you CANT. Making small changes within your means can make the path to healthier living a million times easier. Showing your partner that these changes don't have to be a major pain (either in work or wallet) is your best bet.
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How about recognizing that not all Seventh Generation female customers are straight? Try to make your title and article more inclusive, please.