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Mother's Praise for a Daughter in Transition

Author: GoodNCrazy

When I was a young girl I didn't dare talk to anyone about the changes my body was going through. I find it fascinating that one generation later my 13-year-old daughter can laugh, giggle, and even have a serious discussion about her body.

She is such a terrific kid -- I say it in awe, not because I'm bragging. She understands that developing into a woman means she can accomplish everything she sets her mind to. A few years ago she wanted to be an astronomer; we happily encouraged her. "Work hard and go for it," we said. Now she wants to be an ice skater, singer, teacher, musician, author… it changes depending on the day you ask!

If I give my daughter nothing else, I want to give her the knowledge of how remarkable she is. I want her to live up to her full potential and never think, "Sheesh it's too hard being a girl"! She stopped 'letting' me help with her homework in the 5th grade. She now regularly makes honor roll. In addition to academics, she juggles band, piano, yearbook, youth group, and all the extra chores and babysitting I throw her way!

I've watched her become more responsible as well as more generous. In December, she babysat more and had more spending money than usual. So she decided to buy holiday gifts using her own money. I was super impressed with her big-heartedness!

Don't get me wrong, she isn't perfect. She makes her very own mistakes. But I love how she learns and moves on, never claiming to be a victim or blaming anyone else. The best parenting advice I ever got was: Allow your children to make their own mistakes at young ages. I have found that lessons they learn at 11 and 12 years old can help avoid unwise decisions when they are older teens and young adults, when mistakes can have significant impacts on a budding future.

I'm proud to be her mother and I always want her to be proud of who she is and who she'll one day become. As an early teen her body is still changing and growing and it's such a joy to watch her transform; body, mind, and spirit. She's well on her way to becoming an outstanding woman!


tcrlady picture
Good for you! It's a little early, but maybe look into Women's Colleges for her...I was a similarly busy adolescent and received scholarships for a co-ed college. I scoffed at the idea of going to a "Girls School" because I didn't want to miss out on the traditional things college offered (boyfriends!). However, I went to a small (1000 people) Women's College for my Master's degree at 23-- and I got the chance to be a part of that environment. It was supportive academically, challenging, and competitive in ways that co-ed environments don't allow. It was the best decision I made-- and I recommend it to my enlightened high school girls who I teach now!
coalmiba picture
Your daughter sounds amazing. Has she thought about an all girls high school? If so, she should check out Miss Halls in Pittsfield, MA. Thats where I went and I think she would LOVE it!!!
jaymg picture
I too have found that my 14yo daughter seems so much more comfortable with this transition than I ever was. She's known her own mind almost her whole life and has a great group of friends who similarly march to their own drummers. I don't know how much I have influenced this, but it is at least one aspect of a 'modern' growing-up of which I heartily approve! Hope it continues...
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I think some bragging rights need to go to you as the mother of a very well-adjusted and, clearly, comfortable-in-her-own-skin daughter. She wasn't just born that way, she learned all of that through lessons you've taught her and examples you've set. bragging rights on your daughter...but a few for your job raising her as well. May we all be as successful.
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Renee Métis
I felt awkward and angry when my body started changing (at ten years old). At thirteen, I was still awkward, and only felt irresponsible when things went wrong. If things went right, no big deal, because that's how things are SUPPOSED to work. I'm glad your daughter is grabbing life by the horns and making things work for herself, and that you're encouraging her independence.